I’ve always been a feminist at heart, and honestly, I can’t say when or for how long I’ve officially considered myself one. However, I do know that, around a year ago, this part of myself became vital and central. Taking coursework in feminism and gender studies, I started following feminist blogs and the idealist in me found that the philosophies of feminism had potential for so much beyond the struggle for a middle class USian women’s equality. At this time, I was starting to come into myself as a person, and to become comfortable with myself and my body. I had a new confidence in myself as a beautiful, sexual being.
I started to identify strongly with sex positive feminism. Sex done right- consensual, responsible, and fun- is a beautiful, healthy aspect of human experience. Unfortunately, our attitudes towards sex are often woefully unhealthy. To name a few, emotional dissatisfaction, physical dissatisfaction, sexual violence, homophobia, high teen pregnancy rates, the spread of STDs and the regulation of women’s bodies and lifestyles (through legal means or social mores) are all unfortunate symptoms of a poor attitude towards sex.
At the same time as I have become passionate about these issues, I have been learning to use sex positivity and feminism to navigate the worlds of sex, dating, and friendship. Sometimes I do this well. Sometimes, I do not.
Here, I will write about my experiences, news, social issues, share my thoughts, and more.
I am a twenty year old, white, heterosexual, lower-middle class, cisgender female college student in the U.S. This is the perspective from which I come. I always try to keep my privilege in check and write about a diverse range of issues and perspectives; I am happy to accept constructive criticism and contributions.
The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.
”—Audre Lorde (Uses of the Erotic: Erotic as Power)